Coping with eczema (atopic dermatitis) is sometimes be challenging for children and teens. The itchy rash of flare-ups can cause both physical discomfort and mental distress. They need to know that they are not alone.
Here are ways you can support your child with eczema and help them learn strategies to build confidence and resilience.
Listen & show you understand
One of the most important things you can do as a parent is listen. Instead of rushing to answer or solve your child's problem, simply listen and show them you understand. Giving your child an outlet to express themselves is important. An open line of communication can prevent your child from holding in their feelings and negative thoughts about themselves.
Focus on the positive
At the same time, help your child realize there is more to them than eczema. Think about what you say to them and how you say it. Model positive coping skills by focusing more on other facts about your child, such as their talents or hobbies. (Also see "Stress & Eczema: How to Help Kids Cope With the Itch.")
Help your child explore their strengths and become a well-rounded and confident person. Remember that your outlook and everyday behavior plays a big part in shaping your child's outlook and behavior.
Equip your child with answers
It's natural for children to ask questions about something they do not understand. Prepare your child to answer questions others ask them about eczema. Help your child create a simple statement to describe their condition.
For example, they can say "Eczema is like an allergy that makes your skin dry and itchy. It's not contagious."
When children are prepared and have something to say, they can confidently and effectively answer questions. Role-playing conversations can help your child present themselves confidently. Young children are more likely to respond in a positive and accepting way once they are informed.
Be prepared to discuss bullying
Ask your child directly if they've experienced
bullying; they may not share this information on their own. Let them know that being bullied is not their fault.
If your child is being bullied by peers, encourage them to make friends with other children. Support activities that interest your child. Participating in activities such as team sports, music groups or social clubs can help your child develop new abilities and social skills. When children feel good about how they relate to others, they are less likely to be picked on.
Discuss when and how to ask for help. Alert school officials to problems and work with them on solutions. Because bullying often happens outside the classroom, talk with the principal, guidance counselor and playground monitors as well as their teachers. Write down and report all bullying, including
cyberbullying, to your child's school. By knowing when and where the bullying occurs, you and your child can better plan what to do if it happens again.
Seek & accept help from others
For many children, dealing with eczema is a lifelong journey. If your child needs mental health support, their school or their doctor can refer you to a professional counselor or therapist. A licensed professional can provide regular support and coping techniques to your child and your family.
Your child may benefit from connecting with other children dealing with eczema. For some teens, seeing others with eczema thrive and be confident in their condition can help build personal confidence. Connecting with other children with eczema in a support group can greatly reduce feelings of isolation.
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